i am not a special snowflake

The company I am interning for recently held an online conference on how to manage and interact with millennials (defined as persons born between the 1980s and early 2000s) in the work place.  The conference highlighted  many commonly perceived qualities found in millennials, such as laziness and self-entitlement.

As a millennial, I found this extremely distasteful.

Although there are obviously exceptions, I have found my college peers to be extremely hardworking.  We exceed academically, volunteer, and somehow find time to pursue our non-academic interests.  We’re in touch with the outside world, and are constantly learning and working via the internet.  We are driven.

Now, I realize that I may be overgeneralizing; the population of young adults that I consistently interact with at my private school may or may not be an accurate representation of America’s typical adolescents.

But what I am saying is this: the upcoming American workforce is about to undergo a revolution.  My generation brings with it an extraordinary amount of creativity, and a never before seen work and lifestyle integration.  We are the most diverse generation thus far, and we will bring about some hardcore change.

Baby Boomers and members of Generation X may grumble about our smart phones and seemingly illogical work schedule, but by doing so, they prove their lack of foresight, and underestimate our potential.

With that, I’ll leave you with some fab videos.  Check ’em out.

Millennial Stereotypes:

Why Millennials Matter:

Millennial Response to Baby Boomers:


oh say can you see, dr. carson’s on the far right

Last night, due to seriously screwed up serotonin levels, I found myself obnoxiously awake at 3:15 a.m.  So I did the logical thing: I got up, made tea, and decided to catch up on Twitter.

And this is what I beheld:


THESE ARE THE THINGS THAT I MISS WHILE AT SCHOOL.  Also, Target is downsizing their selection of packaged foods. ( Although that seems like the less significant story, I thought it was more unexpected than Carson announcing his candidacy).

For those who don’t know, Dr. Carson is the head of pediatric neurosurgery at Johns Hopkins.  I first discovered him about a year ago, when I read Gifted Hands, his autobiography.  (I particularly enjoyed his account of his freshman general chemistry final, which was as relateable as it was chilling).  I found his book to be both candid and refreshing, and I immediately read One Nation next.  His political views– particularly his opinion on healthcare– intrigued me, and I began to wonder if he would end up throwing his proverbial hat into the political three ring circus.

I admittedly have yet to do a substantial amount of research on the other candidates.  However, Carson appears to be a hardworking individual who cares for the average American…  And that’s more than what can be said for the majority of politicians.

It will be an interesting primary indeed.

– Tress

war paint


While scrolling through my Facebook feed yesterday, I saw that several of my female friends were sharing a Youtube video.  In this video, a young woman declares that the majority of women wear makeup ‘for themselves’ as a form of ‘expression’. While I admire her spirit, I can’t say that I agree with her.

Do some women wear makeup for their own enjoyment?  Undoubtedly.  But I think it’s a bit hasty to say that’s why most women do.

The truth is, there’s a lot of stigma surrounding makeup.  Studies have been released showing that women who opt out of wearing it tend to be perceived as lazy or incompetent, while women who wear ‘too much’ are deemed morally compromised or untrustworthy.  Therefore, in order to be taken seriously and appear well groomed, most of us apply a socially appropriate amount before going to work, school, etc.

That doesn’t sound like we’re freely expressing ourselves to me.  Heck, if I wore makeup just for myself, I’d be sporting red lips and cat eyes 24/7– not the conservative face I do now.

a makeupless me ft. post finals dark circles and acne. and yes, this is from snapchat. and yes, i did in fact wake up like this.
a makeupless me ft. post finals dark circles and acne. and yes, this is from snapchat. and yes, i did in fact wake up like this.

Now, this certainly doesn’t mean that we can’t be confident without makeup on.  I don’t wear makeup everyday, and I know many women that also forgo the lipstick and blush frequently.  (Besides, who has the energy to when you have 8 am classes?  If I don’t have the time to make coffee before stumbling into a lecture hall then I definitely don’t have the time to highlight and contour).

All I’m saying is that the stigmas surrounding makeup are utter crap.  I long for a day when a woman can confidently walk into the office with a red lip– or without a stitch of makeup– and be treated as if she were conservatively made up.

Society sucks.

– Tress

a selfie a day keeps the low esteem away

Selfies are cool.

In all honesty, they used to seriously annoy me. I used to think that girls (and guys) who posted them frequently were either a) narcissistic or b) attention seeking. But my feelings towards them as changed as of late.

In case you haven’t noticed, we live in a world that teaches us to constantly be seeking physical ‘perfection’. Our culture tells us that to be conventionally beautiful, you must be slender, possess perfect teeth and features, and preferably be blonde. Those who don’t meet that ultimate standard of beauty, are often made to feel lesser. (See above video. All of those young women are beautiful, and yet they all struggle with insecurity. UGH.)

That is absolutely heartbreaking.

Each one of us is unique. Each one of us is beautiful — and we should all recognize that!  Curly hair is just as beautiful as straight hair. All shades of skin are breathtaking. And eyes — whether brown, blue, green, or violet — are kind of spectacular. (Don’t even get me started on all the different body types; there’s so much variation, and it’s freaking fabulous.)

me. messy hair and all.
me. messy hair and all.

So take that selfie. Use whatever filter you want. Instagram, tweet, or tumble it if you like.  Self-love is sometimes frowned up on, but it’s really a good thing. I believe it’s something to be encouraged.

– Tress